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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex suddenly left me last fall, buying a house four days later. He hired my friend to furnish it for him. She picked the designs, received all the furniture deliveries, etc. He still managed to get the wrong things for our daughters, or forgot to place their orders, and I fielded many complaints about the process of setting up their rooms in his house.

Your ex can hire someone too, if this task if beyond him. You are NOT expected to set up your kids' rooms in your ex's house.

I overfunctioned for my spouse, and kept my kids from feeling the effects of his immaturity and unreliability. My 13 year old just said, "I never noticed Daddy was like this before." But you know what? I was being codependent. I was trying to control my environment and keep us all safe, but his inability to adult is beyond my control. And it's OK if he lets down our kids. They will learn how to manage. They have my emotional support and guidance.

Just ignore his lawyer. I know it's hard, when a professional person is claiming you are hostile and uncooperative. But unless you're slashing his tires and refusing to answer when he tries to pick up the kids, he has nothing to back it up with. Tone and mood are not the concern of the court. You live over here in reality, where a father is failing to make his home hospitable for his own kids.[/quote]

Well I think it’s important to point out that failing to buy the “right things” is something a kid can recover from. OP’s ex apparently has beds for the kids, so they have the necessary minimum. OP needs to just create some real boundaries and accept that her ex will parent his way. [/quote]

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