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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is independent at school, but likes to be "pampered" at home. For example, kid and I will be watching a show together and if I get up to go to the bathroom, kid asks for a snack. Kid will put laundry in my basket, etc. When kid was a freshman, I overheard during a Facetime, kid tell roommate they can't wait to get home to be pampered. I suspect that is a very normal feeling.[/quote]

This is very much how I felt when I was home for college breaks, and I expect to do the same with my DC next year.

To be clear, summer breaks were quite different. After a week or so of recovering from exam exhaustion, things went back to normal.

But I was an exhausted mess for the first week of winter break. Often sick, too. The end of semester push was depleting!

Last thought: home was where I could let my hair down and not have to “keep it together” all the time. Does not excuse rudeness or anything like that. But reverting to helplessness the first week or two of winter break? Yes. Acts of love (taking care of things I could usually do myself)  = nurturing for me.

By the way, my parents were the same during my first year of BigLaw (!!!) Yes, I was a full grown adult by then. AND I was often exhausted and depleted when they saw me. A little TLC went a long way. I do the same now for my teens when I sense they’re burned out and exhausted. [/quote]

Sounds like you have kind parents and are a kind, thoughtful parent as a result. I love this. It is really not that much effort to let the college kids recover and not require too much of them during a short break. [/quote]

Thank you for saying this. Timely reminder to thank my parents when I see them this week. 💗[/quote]

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