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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how do you feel about being alone? [/quote]

Dreading it . . . [/quote]

I’m really sorry. The truth is, if it’s not what you chose, there may be no real way to treat it as an indulgence/pleasure as some have suggested. Maybe you’ll be surprised by how okay it is? But it’s hard to plan for it to be okay.

Maybe you can shift into anthropological mode and just observe. Observe yourself in the situation, observe your internal reactions, observe where your mind goes. Say “huh” to whatever you observe. “Huh, this is how it feels at 8pm on Christmas Eve when I’m alone.” “Huh, this is how it feels when I open my eyes on Christmas morning.” “Huh, this is what my mind is saying to me.” Just note it, and use it as information. I’ve found that shifting into observational mode makes me feel a little more in control. If nothing else you are collecting baseline data that can be used as comparison in future years.

It will not always be like it is this year. A separation is a huge rupture. You are still inside the rupture. But the rupture will end, and something new will begin.

Hang in there. I’ll think of you and wish you well. Peace. [/quote]

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