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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think the average woman is working an impressive job, cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, and emotionally intelligent.

There is usually a husband, parents, nannies, cleaners etc involved. Lots of women buy ready made meals, get take out etc.

And I don't think women are simply emotionally intelligent by virtue of being female.

I know the trope is the superwoman mother and the useless father but I don't actually see either in real life. In my family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances - the mothers and fathers are all involved in whatever it takes to manage the home and family, lots have help and use conveniences, and none are useless or perfect. [/quote]

I am divorced and childless (not by choice) so I admit up front I may not see all the things, but the superwoman mother and the useless father is all I see around me. Perhaps it is cultural. [/quote]

Sometimes it's not even a superwoman and a useless dad. Sometimes it's the mom who is clearly barely holding on by a thread, who doesn't manage to make anything for the bake sale at all and is happy just to get her kids to school on time and fed at regular intervals and still get through her work day and pay the bills. But even in these situations (perhaps especially in these situations), I often see a man doing even less or totally checked out, or even working against his wife and being the reason the family is always running late or creating conflict with the kids that the mom has to sort through and her kids process so they don't wind up anxious or miserable.

Yet in this scenario, the mom will get a scolding from the school about tardies while the dad will get a clap on the back for doing something simple like showing up to a school performance (that his wife told him about and got the kids ready for and planned dinner in advance to accommodate, and to which the dad still showed up 20 minutes late).[/quote]

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