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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The whole inclusion thing started out well but has morphed into teaching kids to make themselves smaller for someone else’s happiness and it has taught other kids that if the have an “excuse” for their behavior, there will be no consequences. [/quote]

This is a much smaller problem than someone inviting every girl in the class to a party but 1 or 2.  Which is just mean.

No you don't have to include people you dislike.  But occasionally that also means just having a smaller party in general.  This is life and having social skills means you navigate these things all the time.

As an adult, if I am having a party and one of my friend's is dating a guy I hate, I still have to invite the jerk-bf to the party to stay friends with my friend.  OR: I can have a smaller gathering without partners.  This is similar.

Goodness some of you are hopeless in social situations.[/quote]

Are you 8 years old? No you are not. Expecting kids to have the emotional bandwidth of an adult is unfair. Expecting girls to make themselves uncomfortable to make others comfortable is just a continuation of the outdated concept that women must always be kind even at their own expense. This kid doesn’t like these kids. Your comparison is not valid because you like your friend and accept the boyfriend as a package deal. This girl has nothing to gain by inviting these kids. Yes she should not be unkind to the kids at school but she does not need to modify her once a year celebration for the comfort of others. [/quote]

Sometimes being a part of a strong community involves dealing with people who are not your favorites. This is a life lesson. [/quote]

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