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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If 14 cousins (you included) just got a "thing", and only one cousin got money, then you were not singled out. Maybe there's a history you don't know about (a loan?). Given that she divided equally among her children and also grandchildren (if leaving out this strange amount to one grandchild), then she seems to have thought things through. [/quote]

I am wondering this as well. Like maybe that cousin did work for her or loaned her money. Who knows. You weren't singled out.

OP, have you actually seen a copy of the will and trust?

It's pretty normal for grandkids not to inherit anything. I did not inherit anything from my grandparents and did not care. Well, actually, a similar thing happened to me as one of the poster's cousins above. My grandmother did not update her will when I was born and so I did not get jewelry and other cousins did. That kinda sucks, but whatever, she was old.

What I find odd about your situation is that usually a will would be written to divide everything among the kids, but if a kid (like your dad) is dead, then the dead kid's kids - in this case you - get their portion. Honestly, it sounds like she just did not have a good estate attorney. Or maybe since you mention getting family support as you grew up - maybe your grandma gave more money to your side of the family to help because your dad was dead? So she felt like she gave the inheritance during life? Who knows.

Anyway, this is not a life changing amount of money. If she'd split equally among all the grandkids, or even all the grandkids she was in touch with, it'd be a lot less than the 75k. It would not have changed your life. And god knows how that will got written. What sort of shape she was in, if she even understood it, if the cousin who inherited influenced her. What I can tell you is the amount you'd pay to a lawyer fighting it might be less than what you'd get AND would be emotionally distressing.

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