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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. But women don't change either. That's why you marry someone knowing full well who they are and not a project. [/quote]
or you date long enough to confirm that you can grow and change together. No one stays the same.[/quote]

This is so tragically naive. There's no predicting who can "grow and change together" BECAUSE no one stays the same. You can try to find someone you're generally compatible with, and you can try to find someone who's open to change and willing to evolve, but there are zero guarantees here. Life gets lifey and there's no way to predict who will step up and handle it and who might crumple and fold.[/quote]
It's worked for me and dh going on 35 years. I suppose I'm "naive" or maybe I am open and flexible, as is dh. We dated 5 years before marriage and knew we could grow together when we took our vows.[/quote]

Or maybe you got lucky. I'm glad it's working out for you, and that's probably not because of you. There's nothing guaranteeing you won't hit an impasse in the next year.

The point isn't that people can't make it work long-term. The point is that there's no way of "knowing full well who they are" in advance, because life itself will change people. You take your best shot and you get what you get. [/quote]

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