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But it’s affected my husband 2x now and he is rightfully really irritated with me. What do you do when you are in this situation? Obviously I’ve apologized but now I am in the dog house and will be for a while. I hate myself.[/quote]

OP, I will call your attention to the language in your original post. You expect that your husband will punish you for A WHILE because you made a mistake that is irritating and frustrating but not actually catastrophic in any way.

Look closely at your relationship. It sounds like your husband is a bully. Ask yourself - if a person I loved made this mistake, how would I react? Would I treat a loved one the way my husband treats me?

(My dad is like your husband. My mom, beaten down over the years, is sure she is incompetent even though she is wildly more capable and functional than many, many people. But my dad seizes on her mistakes and has done a number on her self esteem. It's a terrible feeling, to feel like you won't receive empathy or grace from your partner.)[/quote]

Aaaand here you are, the predictable manhater poster, come to derail OP from working on herself with a projection narrative about how her husband sounds like the problem. Gross.[/quote]

Nope, I have a great husband and we both regularly make mistakes - sometimes in ways that are extremely frustrating or inconvenient or expensive in time or money. But we are kind to each other and forgive ourselves and each other for being human and work together so that we are mostly focused on being appreciative of each others' strengths.

Everyone here seems to overlook that OP isn't doing this particular kid runaround because she is SICK. And being sick surely (and reasonably) affects her attention/judgment/calendar management skills, too. [/quote]

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