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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree it’s irritating and I empathize.

Although I do have one kid with restricted eating who wouldn’t eat either of those things.  I don’t think I would have told you in advance because it would have been an awkward “just fyi my kid probably won’t eat any of that because she has unusual food restrictions but please don’t make her anything different I will just feed her before she goes….”   But I think she would not have said anything (since she’s embarrassed about her issues) and would have taken a small scoop of Mac and cheese, pretzels, fruit and sort of mushed the Mac and cheese around her plate.  And then had cake.

It sounds like you threw a nice party and I’m sure the boys had fun and didn’t put as much thought into this as you did.[/quote]

Please teach your daughter not to waste food. If she knows she won't eat it, don't take it just to make it inedible and then throw it out. Tell her to take what she will actually eat and to just say "I'm picky, but I'm happy with my pretzels!" or whatever. [/quote]

But OP would have preferred they put food on their plate even if they didn’t want it. [/quote]

That isn’t what she said.  She said for them to put on the plate what they want, without feeling the tell her what they don’t like.  If you don’t like the mac and cheese and nuggets, then you take a plate and put on it some fruit and pretzels and cake and be quiet.

It’s possible OP prodded them by asking why they don’t have any mac and cheese or would they like them some…and that is when they said they don’t like it.  In which case, well…she asked. [/quote]

OP here. I did not “prod,” I did not push food. I simply said the vegetarians should go first to make sure they had enough mac and cheese. And then a total of FOUR kids told me they didn’t like this or that, without me questioning. I didn’t push, no one had to take anything, but 13 is old enough not to just walk up to your host and be like, “I don’t like this and that.” [/quote]

I think you’re being overly sensitive. So they told you they don’t like Mac and cheese. This isn’t criticism of you. It’s just like if you offered me a glass of wine and I say I don’t drink. It’s fine. [/quote]

How about a “No thank you; but I’d love some water if that’s OK”…no one cares that you don’t drink. This is the point, no yapping required, yes please or no thank you. [/quote]

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