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Reply to "My partners never care about my feelings"
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[quote=Anonymous]There are two issues here: 1. You perceived his behavior as flirting and don't like it. 2. You stonewalled him for 2 days. Only you can decide if #1 is a dealbreaker for you - for many people, it would be. For #2, stonewalling is extremely toxic and one of Gottman's 4 Horsemen predicting divorce in married couples. Can you share a little more details on how you went about the 2 days of silence? Did you tell him you were upset about the flirting and needed time to cool off? Did you storm off and refuse to take any calls or texts? Did he try to contact you during that time and you ignored him? I agree with PPs that you should have brought up the issue that night (or the next morning if alcohol was involved) and had a calm discussion with him. Then, if you still need time to cool off, you can communicate that to him along with an expected time of resolution. Going incommunicado with someone without any notification is the abusive part.[/quote]
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