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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of putting myself out there. Offering up my house. Offering ideas for "adventures" with the kids. Sending links for rec activities and "lets do this." Offering to drive. Never, ever flaking unless it was a true emergency. Then after drop-off "are you free? Do you want to..." 
Even with all that I rarely click with someone and half the time they end up moving away after we do click.[/quote]

This is a great list.  100% agree, especially the not flaking.  And when people invite you to things, you have to accept most of the time.  If you decline a lot at the beginning of a friendship, they stop inviting and the friendship can't develop further.

It's really a numbers game.  Of a hundred people, you might click with 40 of them.  Of those 40, only 15 have kids that are your kids' ages.  Of those 15, only 5 live close enough to make hanging out a possibility.  So there are 5 people out of 100 that you have a chance to make a lasting friendship.

When I first moved out of DC into my suburban VA neighborhood, I told my old friends that I think I had moved into the least friendly neighborhood in the world.  Everyone on my street had college age kids/empty nests.  No one was my age.  It look me a while, but by that baby was preschool aged, I had made a decent group of friends.  Now 10 years later, I love my neighborhood and these ladies are my best friends. Now we travel and go on vacations together.  [/quote]

I do agree it is a numbers game. It is almost like dating. Both sides have to want to make the effort.
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