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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spouse and I moved an 8 hour drive from where both of our families live - for a job opportunity. Been here 5 years. This is the first year we feel stable enough with kids getting bigger and more manageable to make the trip “home for the holidays”. Our families of origin are cordial with each other but there won’t be any combined time - definitely a case of 3 days with one side, pack it all up, 3 days with the other side.

I call my parents to run dates by them. Mom’s response: we’ll be here, glad you’re coming, so I won’t have to mail presents.

Spouse texts his parents (preferred method of communication) with proposed dates, asks if those dates work. Response: yes.

Am I too sensitive? [b]Would love some enthusiasm for our visit on either or both sides.[/b] I’m packing up small children and am embarking on a full day drive each way [b]to share time with you[/b]. It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

Bah humbug![/quote]

The visits were your idea though. You made a request, and they said, yes, instead of no.

What does "share time" mean?

People with little kids, no one one is going to be excited about your little kids as you are, even grandparents, so stop setting yourselves up for disappointment.  No one else will have the ownership feeling, for lack of a better word, than you. [/quote]

Obviously it means spend time. [/quote]

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