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[quote=Anonymous]OP, these kids are just bullies.  Remind your daughter that their behavior is their problem - not hers - and it shouldn't make her feel bad about herself.  My DD is also in 6th grade and brought up the "popular crowd" for the first time the other day.  I asked her what she thinks that means and, of course, she said it's the group that everyone likes.  I told her that it's actually just the group that everyone KNOWS.  There are usually MANY kids that are better liked than the popular set.

I agree that it would help to get her involved in something outside of school, but maybe consider one activity that she can really sink her teeth into.  My DD is not bullied, but she is usually left out.  She has always taken dance lessons, but taking a few one-hour classes every week doesn't give her an opportunity to bond with the other girls.  she really wants to be on the competition team next year, and I'm going to let her because it will be a good way for her to really get to know the other girls and also have something to really work at and be proud of.

Have you asked the teacher if there is anything your daughter is doing that makes her a target?  There could be some small behavior or habit that is contributing, and she might need to somewhat conform to the social norm.  For instance, that's great that she loves to read, but it might be a problem if she's walking down the hall with her nose in a book.  Or if she's correcting kids in class (my DD has been called out for this), or bragging about her grades.  Or maybe she was not-so-subtle about calling attention to her new clothes.

Even if she is doing something to draw attention to herself, there is NO excuse for bullying.  I hope you will continue to stay on top of this and make sure the school handles it.[/quote]

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