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His parents are very wealthy and vindictive and [b]would help to crush me,[/b] I'm sure 😞[/quote]

Them crushing the children is your only concern.

Are they going to harm the children? How? [/quote]

OP here. I mean crush me financially to ensure I wouldn't get a fair share of child support or money. Probably not even my desired physical custody, either. They are rich and have a lot of contacts in virtually every industry. And if they don't have direct ties, they know someone who does. I have no doubt they'll exert their status and wealth to take care of their own son and to make me look like a horrible mother and person.[/quote]

What is your desired physical custody?

If they were guardians, would they harm these children? If yes, how and why do you believe this?

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OP here. My desired physical custody would be 100% since I am with them full-time and actually take care of them. But I have read that unless there is physical abuse, it will be 50/50. Which sucks. Because I can't trust him to take care of them when they are with him.

Sometimes when I am in the shower, my oldest will come to me and tell me Dad won't feed them because he's busy even after asking. Or will tell me that Daddy is being mean or won't help in some way.

This is probably the #1 reason I'm still here. Because at least I can exert control over the childrens' wellbeing as much as I can. It terrifies me to think what would occur during my off-times..

I don't believe my in-laws would hurt the children. But my FIL has the worst temper I've ever seen (probably where my husband gets it from) and he and my MIL fight all the time. I hate being around them when they go at it.[/quote]

Do you believe the family would not ensure the children are fed?

Given what you have described, I would assume the grandparents would throw money at the problem for the son.  Not a situation where custody could be adjusted due to evidence of neglect.

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OP here. Well my in-laws don't live around us full-time, so it would be my husband with the kids and when in-laws are in town they would visit, no doubt.

No, I don't anticipate any change in custody, which is why it sucks.. unless we could agree on something between ourselves, but [b]I don't even know if a court would accept an agreement between the two parties or not[/b].[/quote]

Courts will accept almost any custody and child support agreement that the two parents agree to.  And when I say almost, I mean a court would only overturn the joint parent agreement if there was some kind of obvious criminality, or serious documented physical or sexual abuse history (and even these things might not be enough to have a court overturn a joint agreement). [/quote]

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