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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Plenty of divorced 40s men who would like a late 30s woman to step in and play mommy to them and their kids because they can’t make it on their own.  [/quote]

Horseshit.

They are wary of the women desperate to be taken care of financially, though. [/quote]

Guy here. If you are unable to support yourself, I am not looking for another mouth to feed[/quote]

And you know how women love a man who's not protective at all,  can't support her and is selfish. Good luck on the dating market- men like you lose.  [/quote]

If you’re over 40, you really should not be looking for a man to support you. Presumably you’re not having kids or you have them already, so you won’t becoming a SAHM.

I say this as a woman. I’d feel utterly pathetic going on dates with men if I didn’t have a career at 40 and had to beg one to take care of me. [/quote]

There are plenty of very attractive women with interesting careers that just don’t make a lot of money who don’t need to beg at all. You might have to beg. But attractive, interesting women do not.[/quote]

No woman over 40 is attractive enough to pull a rich man while not having her own career. 25, sure. 45, nobody is touching that mess. And that goes for men and women. At some point you need to grow up and stop looking for someone to rescue you. [/quote]

As a woman, I’m  perfectly able to take care of myself since age 25. It’s totally reasonable to expect financial stability from any candidate for a serious relationship regardless of their age. A woman should ability to finance her basic housing, a car, education and regular vacations. 
Financial stability for a man in his 40-50s is ability not to count beans for drinks concerts and outings on initial non-exclusive stages of dating. I look for someone whose lifestyle matches mine.

I will never understand the extremes when an older man takes on board an early professional woman who makes very little. It’s a recipe for a financial disaster for him in retirement [/quote]

It's worse for her if they marry, because absent sudden death, the assets that get sunk into end of life care almost always leave the living spouse somewhat destitute.[/quote]

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