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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is the thing. Your kid proactively went to a guidance counselor to discuss the impact this screaming is having on them. You really need to have some empathy for the outcome this seems to be having on your child and work through what to do here. Your kid likely needs more support and so do you and your husband.

[b]Your kid is being raised in a hybrid culture. You and your husband have to understand that this will have an impact on them. If they realize that none of their friends are getting screamed at when they get a B or roll their eyes from time to time, this is likely going to mean their reaction to what you are doing could be that they feel a ton of shame and embarrassment in a way they might not if all their peers were treated the same way. They don’t have friends to bond with and connect about this, because their friends may be horrified when they hear this. This stuff is really hard.[/b]

And I’m not saying you have to roll over and become a gentle parent. But there is perhaps a happy medium here that you and your husband could come to if you took some parenting classes. And if your kid is feeling terrible about themselves, or wanting to run away from home or self injure, then they need help too.

You need to lead with empathy here (for all of you) and not worry about CPS (which isn’t going to be a problem in the real world unless you are dramatically altering the facts in your description here).[/quote]

This is reflected in studies on spanking. If you are surrounded by non spanked kids, there is a marked negative impact versus those in a spanking culture[/quote]

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