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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes there are because while a man who is say 35 can have up to 3 quality women to choose from, the same cannot be said for women. And I say this as guy who recently got married. I am 38 and I have more friends that are single than married. For most of them their current girlfriends or the ones they have dated in the past have or have had better career than them.

Men drop out of the dating market if they are not happy in their career. Unfortunately we see a very disturbing trend among men between 30 and 45. They are chronically underemployed, have substance abuse issues, and in poor physical and mental shape
 And they have significantly less friends than men their peers in the past. Career satisfaction is really important for a man's ego. If he feels that he has been a failure career wise, he is very unlikely to enter the dating market. So women are waiting for men that don't exist today and that will probably not exist tomorrow either.

[b]I think a lot of women will sadly end up single forever.[/b] Not because they are picky or not trying hard enough, but because there are simply not enough qiality men to choose from.

Now I am sure you have taken stats 101, so.if you are the exception I am not talking about you. You are an outlier.[/quote]
It's funny that as I'm reading this, I'm wishing I was one of those ladies who never got married. Marriage sucks badly for women. Like really badly. I was so much better off emotionally, financially, in every way before I let DH put a ring on it and suck the joy from me. The marriage rate is going to get a lot lower because there's just very little in it for a woman who has her shit together. [/quote]
If you don't want kids, this is likely true. But if you do want kids and manage to find a guy who will be an involved father (they're out there) then there's something to be said for marriage.[/quote]
"Involved father." I mean look how low the bar is. I have kids and DH isn't anywhere near the parent I am, even though he does more than most men. I guess you'd consider him "involved." The problem is that I didn't want "better than the average idiot" and that's not what DH promised. He doesn't have an "involved mother" in me. He has the typical Mom making it all happen because he does juuuust as much as he decides to. I want what he has. He's never going to meet that standard because he doesn't want to.

Don't waste my time with tips about how to get a grown man to stop being so selfish. Take a moment and actually think. No one has to write books on how to get moms to show up and care about every facet of the household. No one has to get a PhD in psychology to get moms not to freeload. Having a whole half of the equation be so entitled and stupid makes marriage a waste of time. People thinking it's women's job to properly incentivize men to get off their asses and serve the family they benefit from is part of the problem.

I wish I never got married and I'm open about that with my girlfriends and mentees. Men are such a drain.[/quote]

Hugs, PP. I’m sure you did the best you could.[/quote]

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