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[quote=Anonymous]It’s too bad she isn’t more helpful, but try to just accept that she is who she is. I can tell you that many of her generation do not see or understand why they would help. Eg, if you ask my parents, they will tell you they broke their backs raising 4 kids who are now self sufficient and they are done taking care of others. They want to enjoy their golden years. We expect zero help from them, no babysitting, etc. But we have plenty of visits where they enjoy seeing and interacting with the kids. I dictate the terms that work for us in terms of schedule and plans and it works just fine. (My MIL is actually the far more helpful and considerate grandparent and we are grateful for her for sure.) Feel free to stand up for yourself as well, just don’t let yourself become bitter over unmet expectations. Eg “no, MIL, there is no dinner plan, would you be willing to order something while I feed the baby?” Or whatever.[/quote]
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