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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think the message you are giving your daughter is a harmful one.

[b]My ILs told my husband something similar.  They said all the party kids would grow up to be garbage collectors and live in trailer homes, and he would laugh at them like they laughed at him now.  They are Indian, and somehow, this was very comforting to them.[/b]

To be blunt, that's the wrong paradigm.  You don't live your life according to revenge, or arrogance, or who can look down on whom.  You live to be a good person who uses her God-given talents to bring love, joy, and peace to the world.

My oldest teenage daughter is homeschooled, but she has taken classes in various settings and experienced her own angst, so I'm not saying this out of thin air.  Your daughter does not need to tear other people down to build herself up.  Her value is infinite and independent of the way other people treat her.  She is a unique, priceless, beautiful creation who has so much to offer.

Don't play these hurtful games.  Rise above them.  Where there is life, there is hope, as well as the temptation to despair.  So what if the jock gets washed up, the popular girls marry badly, the nerds get rich?  None of that is important.  What is important is love.  Do these kids grow up to love one another, to love their neighbor as themselves, to realize they need forgiveness and to forgive?

For me, I was the totally messed up nerdy outsider reject brainiac.  Maybe I still am, despite my friendships and work and degrees, but I know God loves me, forgives me for my faults, and is trying to work with me.[/quote]

I'm really not sure how being Indian has anything to do with this.  I think most nerdy kids would be "comforted" by this statement - this is basically what the OP is telling her daughter.  I get the feeling OP is not going to be comforted by your hippy dippy statements, anyway.[/quote]

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