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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.

Don’t be mean but [b]remember that you have the upper hand. [/b]

Never accept poor treatment and immediately end the relationship if he treats you poorly.

Men sniff out low self esteem women who will tolerate their BS. Don’t be this person.

You need the immediately set the expectation that you know your value and will move on if he tries to take advantage or treat you poorly.

-signed, former people pleaser whose dating life improved dramatically when I adopted this behavior.[/quote]

I think this is a bad attitude to take into a new relationship. Or any relationship, really. It’s so adversarial. Why not just treat people as equals, and expect to be treated as an equal in return?[/quote]

Everyone has opinions. Women are conditioned by the patriarchy to prioritize the needs of men over their own.

Furthermore, men and women are not equal and do not approach relationships the same way. Women who enter into relationships with men expecting things to be “equal” are naive almost always get screwed.

More women than men are like the OP and excessively accommodating and agreeable. Men are more strategic and used to getting their way. Often they assume that their sex means that their role is to be the leader in the relationship. Which is not inherently a bad thing, but it can lead to entitlement, laziness, dismissiveness, and emotional abuse.

[b]When dating, women hold all of the cards and should act accordingly. [/b]

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This will only appeal to men who like princessy types. Men who like thoughtful, intelligent, fair-minded women will not be seeking out these women. And the words "when dating" are rather ominous. Who, then, in your worldview, has the upper hand when not dating? Because dating is only a brief period of time in the relationship. [/quote]

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