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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mmmmm something about your description seems off. I mean, yes, a spouse attending a ton of business meetings and hanging all over her husband is super weird. But your concerns all seem... personal. Should you "ignore her" or "be her BFF" - "I don't want her man" it's "making you uncomfortable" "she thinks we're buddies but we're not"...

I feel like if you were presenting this factually, your questions and concerns would be professional. More along the lines of "She attends customer meetings, and I can tell the customers are uncomfortable with this - these are important events for developing client relationships, and he's leaving a bad impression" or "often these green room times are chances to catch up with key industry professionals who are also there, and he knows them, but instead of introducing me, he's talking with his wife" or "we often need to strategize before we meet, but instead his focus is split and I feel like we're heading into meetings unprepared?" etc, etc, etc. If there are professional problems, spell them out, and we can help you navigate.

But your concerns seem personal. You wish she wasn't there because you like your boss, he's a friend and colleague, you like spending time with him, and you don't like her - she's ruining the vibe. Note: this doesn't have to be nefarious or imply that you want to bang him. I think we all have friends whose company we prefer without their spouse, particularly if their spouse is a dud. But then call a spade a spade. You don't like her, and she makes these trips less pleasant for you.

That's a bummer, but also not a problem you should "fix" - the answer is to treat her warmly, be professional in professional settings, pleasant in less personal situations (like on the airplane) and excuse yourself when you tire of her. [/quote]

NP and I don't think it's necessarily that complicated. I would NOT want anyone who doesn't have a business reason to be in a sales meeting or business meeting there. It's not about the vibe with the boss, it's about the person ruining the vibe with the CLIENT and making my company look unprofessional, which could potentially cost me the account and my job.[/quote]

PP here. Completely agree! Except... that's not what she said. Her post doesn't mention a single professional concern. Her post says "It does make me uncomfortable" and it's "awkward for me" but doesn't say anything about making the company look unprofessional, the client's being uncomfortable, concerns about account or job security... that's my point. Those are real problems. "I don't like it" isn't. [/quote]

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