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Reply to "My friends are telling me to be mean to men"
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[quote=Anonymous]Man here: in general, men don’t like “mean.” I think this is advice coming from people who have been hurt too many times before and have kind of hardened about relationships. The benign story is that this advice is well-calibrated to your doormat tendencies, so they are encouraging you to merely be more assertive and recognizing that this is likely to feel like being “mean” to you, but I kind of doubt it. Kindness and weakness are not the same thing; “kind but mindful of my own boundaries and willing to defend them” is way better than “mean” as an approach, IMO. [/quote]
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