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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't say drama, but my friends and I are all in perimenopause with kids in high school.  We lean on each other, commiserate, and brainstorm.  Isn't that what friends are for?[/quote]

+1 I appreciate my friends where we can catch up, fill each other in on what’s going on with our lives, talk about our ups and downs, and just generally commiserate and/or celebrate. Conversation is reciprocal with give and take, we are both there to talk and listen to one another equally.

What I do find annoying are friends who think their problems are so much worse than everyone else’s, and make a huge problem out of every little thing. For example, I have a friend whose husband travels a lot for work, and she’s always complaining about how hard her life is taking care of her kids, making them breakfast every morning, driving them around, etc. (along with her full-time nanny and housekeeper). I am in the same boat as she is with three kids and a husband who isn’t around a whole lot, but her level of complaining takes it to another level. I find that after our conversations, I know everything going on in her life and she basically has no idea what’s going on with mine because she never asks and never gives me an in in the conversation to start talking. She also feels the need to be the center of attention… If she feels slighted, she’ll let you know, but nothing is ever her fault. She also happens to be a really big drinker, maybe she’s an alcoholic, who knows. These are the types of friends who are annoying. On the flipside, given her need for constant attention, she often throws parties and is very social, and can be really fun. I’m getting to the point in my 50s, though, where I’m not sure it’s worth it. [/quote]

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