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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh, this is such an unhealthy, transactional attitude.

Do what you're comfortable doing. Don't do what you're not. If you want to invite kids over to play, do it. If you want your kids' friends to stay for dinner, invite them. If you're happy to give them a ride, do it.

If it feels like an imposition to you, dial it back. Say no. Lay low for a while.

But don't just quietly judge people who don't reciprocate as "rude" and spend time and energy mulling on it while still inviting them over! If it feels like you're giving more than you want, dial back. Otherwise, enjoy your kids' friends and your full house and stop expecting payback.

We probably host kids to play... 10x as often as my kids are invited elsewhere? Who. Cares. We often feed those kids at those times. Who. Cares. Hosting is often easier because I don't have to schlep my kids'.

Do what works for you and your family and what you enjoy and don't worry about everyone else. People have struggles you don't know about or understand and community is Good. [/quote]

I used to have this limitlessly gracious attitude until I realized some people are entitled takers. So I still host but those handful of people are out.

Some people really are entitled takers who have nothing to offer (especially in terms of character). They eventually show their true colors. It initially boggled my mind that these people felt entitled to every invite and a presence at even a small group play date while never having me over and getting pissy over small things.[/quote]
If you mean taking their kid somewhere and paying for them, yes, this works. If you mean inviting the kid and the parent to join you in an outing and kid is over 8, then it doesn’t work. If I’m there, I’m going to pay for my kid, obviously. [/quote]

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