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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to my DS. I thought it was ADHD and it may be but ultimately it was a matter of him caring more. When I showed him options (for high school and what grades were needed, and colleges and career) he tried harder. Went from Cs to almost straight As. When I asked how it happened, DS said he decided he wanted to get better grades and just tried harder. Just my personal experience.[/quote]

OP here. I worked in schools for a while and have seen a lot of ADHD. I really don't think that's the issue.  Bluntly, he doesn't have that excuse.

The above resonates with me.  How do I get him to care more??

Trying to be generous - I think maybe his self esteem is low, he thinks other kids are smarter than him, and he is afraid to try.  Combined with, his  organizational skills are lacking.

Tackling the more tangible issue - how can I help him with organization when he is lying and shifty about what needs to get done? Does that look like sitting for an hour at the table every day, regardless of homework, like a PP suggested, until grades are up?[/quote]

Sit with him and teach him how to organize his schedule. Do it until he understands the process. Praise him as things get better. Praise the effort and the results. Tell him you know he can do better if he tries and you are requiring he try. He needs to know this is important and that you will be with him to get it done. [/quote]

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