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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had surgery in 2021, was bedridden for 2 weeks after, and barely mobile for another 2 weeks. We have literally never caught up from it. Like PP I tried to implement better systems after that for fear of what might happen to the kids if I were ever out of the picture for good, but DH couldn't manage it and my imagined death wasn't sufficiently motivating.

Instead I am focused on raising the kids to be competent and responsible for their surroundings. It's sad when a 9 year old can handle life better than a grown man.[/quote]

What on Earth got so neglected in 4 weeks that you never caught up on it?  [/quote]

So much. But the kicker was that DH didn't apparently didn't touch a single item of his dirty clothing or piece of paper/mail during that time, and hid a bunch of it at the back of a closet in a panic once I was mobile. Then we moved last year. And what did he pack when we moved? Hidden piles of crap from 2021! Which are still in a box. Yes, weeks of ancient dirty laundry, receipts, junk mail, important mail, even birthday cards got tossed in a box and sealed. I can't even type the rest because it's so enraging. [/quote]

Wait, you are SO on top of things that you don't know that there are piles (plural) of crap in the back of a closet in a house that you live in for 4 years? How big is your house?
I smell something and its not dirty laundry![/quote]

There's a little hatch door to an attic in the back wall of his closet and we don't use that attic. He had the things stuffed just behind that hatch door. When I had asked about where the clothes were he would say dry cleaners, or vacation house, or gym locker, or whatever, and then finally I just gave up and thought maybe he accidentally left stuff at a hotel on a work trip and was too embarrassed to tell me (which he's done before). It's a bonkers situation, I know.[/quote]

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