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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a room mom is a volunteer role that anyone is welcome to take on. Each year, we have new families joining, and a "summer family" is assigned to help them get settled. In addition, the room mom organizes a series of events, including a "new mom" event, a "new class" event, and two "new parent" events — so it's quite a bit to manage!

It's totally normal for new families to face a bit of a rough transition. While it may feel like November is still early, some families (even after 2, 3, or 4 years) are still adjusting. If challenges persist, therapy might be a helpful option to consider.

As for the "mind your own business" posters — they're not wrong. But sometimes, it's hard not to wonder: when the moms are talking about soccer, why not take a moment to listen and then contribute something that might be relevant to the conversation?

Like everyone else, we have too much to juggle and not enough time, so back to MYOB for us![/quote]

Why not take a moment to actually bring the new parent into the conversation?

Seriously, this is all about the cliquey little school environment where so many parents enjoy being “in” and judging those who are “out.”

The “in” parents are the ones who need therapy. 
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This is the kind of comment that makes me wonder why there aren’t social skills classes for adults. Stopping a conversation about soccer to ask, “Does your child play soccer” is a terrible opportunity for connection relative to listening to get an understanding of how parents feel about soccer. Then when parents to start to say something relatable like what it’s like to have a leftie playing forward, it’s easy to jump in.[/quote]

Huh? The social skills part of this (assuming OP is genuine in wanting to support new families) is for the clique to reach out to the new person and draw them in. Not to continue their in-group conversation. It’s one thing to do that at a soccer game; another to ice out new families at a school event. [/quote]

The social skills part of this is being able to read and jump into any social situation.[/quote]

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