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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My older cousin, who is 5 years older than me, sometimes joined us on trips when I was a kid. She was not paid. She was treated like my older sister, and didn't have to spend a penny of her money for anything, except what she herself wished to bring back as gifts for her family/friends or mementos for herself (and even then, if I got something, my parents would buy her a little something too). We shared a hotel room while my parents were in another, and that was fun, but there was no babysitting per se.

There was never any question of paying my cousin. She wanted to join us. Sometimes she explored by herself, but mostly, if she wanted alone time, she would put on her headphones and listen to her music. I never got any whiff of any discontent on her part. Her parents were grateful that we included her.

The only way your sister's comment would make sense is if the cousin didn't actually want to join you, or if you have a history of press-ganging people into service and she's afraid you're going to ask this teen for various services, or ask her to babysit much more frequently than you let on.[/quote]

OP here - my sister did not ask my niece. She has previously refused offers to allow her daughter to stay with family to do a fun, summer program, or accept support for a summer program. She doesn’t want to have to drive her/be responsible for registering her. It’s fine if she doesn’t want to do it, it was just a nice idea to include her.  It’s fine if my niece doesn’t want to go, the “gift” would have been from me and my parents. My sister turned it around after initially saying it was a great idea and she’d love to go anywhere I pick (despite me asking if she’d want to have some input or some specific interests). She could have just said that it was a kind offer but it just isn’t going to work out this summer and left it at that.

She made a point to attack me, my children, my motives, and then bring into it that I’m being selfish by not prioritizing her wedding by spending 3k extra (that I have not budgeted for). I don’t have a lot of money, so this trip is a BIG DEAL and offering to include my niece and pay for her expenses while we are there is a BIG DEAL, that’s the max of what I can afford, between that and having to pay for my flight, ect to the wedding. I’m trying to be as generous as I am financially able to be.

My sis was looking for an excuse to attack me and be hurtful. Someone had said that are enmeshed. Probably! She calls/texts/messages me multiple times a day. [/quote]

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