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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s very easy to say what one might do in a particular situation, but until one lives it, one cannot know. 
It’s difficult that say whether he’s clinically depressed or what’s going on without an evaluation by a qualified person. 
In this situation I don’t know that kicking him out of your home is going to help him get started on his way. Somewhere there a happy medium between throwing him out and allowing him to stay while setting reasonable expectations, setting and maintaining boundaries with him and holding him accountable.  
How about a career coach who can write him a professionally done resume, cover letter template and linkdin page?  I can understand why someone with his educational credentials may feel worse working in food service or retail.  He probably already feels bad about himself as he’s seeing his peers buying homes, and doing things he had anticipated doing by now.  I applaud him for not agreeing t have children and for leaving a marriage where he was being mistreated.  
Would he be open to at least agreeing to meet with a counselor a couple of times to see if it’s someone he is comfortable being open and honest with? 
Agree on having him be a contributing member of the household as far as helping with tasks and contributing something financially. It doesn’t need to be $1,000 per month, but something that would be enough to be meaningful-the point isn’t dollars, it’s about learning responsibility.  
I would consider putting some type of time frame on this as well, something reasonable.
This is not at all uncommon and not anything you have or haven’t done. At 37, he still has a lot of time in front of him. This can be worked through. Try to focus on the things he has done right and that you are proud of him for. 
This can be isolating for you and your spouse as well, as you’re seeing other people with similar age kids in a different place than yours. 
But that doesn’t mean they’re any better than your son. This place he is in, and you are always in is not the place you or he will always be in.

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Ignore many posters OP, unless they've walked a mile in your shoes....
Here is some good advice.   Best of luck.[/quote]

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