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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much medical care is too much to keep doing and maintain at home? My sisters are saying it’s time for assisted living. Helping with showering, etc with my father. I still work, I have a son and daughter in college. Taking full time care of my father. He can’t even get out of bed alone.

I’m getting so tired and grumpy. My husband doesn’t help, but we spend all our time with my father sitting in our home.

How to alleviate the guilt? Deal with the anger of no sibling help at all? Deal with years of missing life and so resentful. [/quote]

How does your husband feel about your father living with you? Mine has brought up having a parent-in-law living with us before, but he is so not a caregiver, and never asked me how I feel.  The answer is that I've already spent my life as a de facto solo parent to our kids, and I'm not willing to spend the rest of it caring for his parents. I would probably divorce him if he moved in a parent and dumped the caretaking responsibility on me.  [/quote]

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