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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find people like you so annoying, OP.

It's YOUR birthday. Why don't you say:

"On my birthday, we are going to X place for dinner at Y time and then on the weekend we'll do Z outing. I've already made the reservations and bought the tickets."

That's what I do. Why do you give other people power over you and allow them to mess up something you could have so easily done yourself?!?

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She did.  She told him she wanted to do the dive pizza place.  And then when he said that wasn't good enough, she picked another place.  And he STILL  decided he didn't want to listen to her.  [/quote]

PP you responded to. No, she did not insist on what she wanted and she didn't say "make reservations for X, because that's where I want to go" (or better yet, call herself). Sometimes you need to do that. The husband is not at fault for wanting something "nicer" for his wife's birthday. My husband has made the same comment, and I have made similar comments to him, when he picks something low-key for his birthday - it's a phrase that is meant to convey respect for the other. OP is annoying because she's not being crystal clear. You can't expect your spouse to read your mind. If you two suggest different things, and one makes a reservation and the other doesn't, how is anyone to know that the one who did not act actually cared more? See what I mean? OP forced her husband to pick because she did not make her wishes clear, and did not act to make them happen.

This is a communication failure on OP's part. [/quote]

It's pretty pathetic that you have to be that clear with your husband for it not to be considered a communication fail.  If I tell DH "hey I want to go to X for my bday" he makes plans for X because he actually respects me and cares about what I want.  Having to insist on something or make all the plans so that your husband actually listens to you is pretty miserable.  Respect is listening to what your spouse wants, not trying to convince them otherwise or make them take total control of the situation to get what they want. [/quote]

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