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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you want your children to sacrifice their marriage and time with their kids for you?  [/quote]

I am caring for an elderly family member right now. It's awful and I have thought about unaliving myself many times. I have been robbed of years with my kids that I cannot get back. I tell my kids I will NEVER do this them and I will never become a burden to them.[/quote]
I am so sorry you are going through this! I can absolutely relate, as I went through this with my mother. Every Saturday was dedicated to her. And at least two nights a week. My kids and my family suffered. We moved her into a facility over the summer. It was totally worth it. It was very very hard for her. She ended up having a mental breakdown and being in a rehab facility for 3 weeks because she was yelling and screaming. 
If I’m being honest, I don’t feel guilty about it. I feel bad for her, but not guilty about it.
It isn’t fair to be part of the sandwich generation.
And absolutely, I swear I will never do this to my children.
Seek help for your depression. You need to take care of yourself. (Hugs)[/quote]

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