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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You may not get a lot of answers, there are some pretty nasty posters who tend to see children as objects/posessions instead of people. Anything less than 50/50 and the custodial parent is evil, blah blah. I strongly encourage you to put your kids need for stability and consistency first. Give them a voice in the matter. This will change as time goes on, and be flexible and respectful. [/quote] NP and I agree with the philosophy of this response but I’m going through a divorce now and am finding that how stability and consistency is evaluated is really luck of the draw, and if mediators or courts are involved kids don’t really get a voice until they’re 16 or 17. Even if you present your plan as one that is in the best interests of your kids and the one that will continue the status quo and provide stability, you’re at risk in a system that is going to favor 50/50 and both parents regardless of whether one parent can actually provide their 50.[/quote]
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