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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We allowed one at our house, but didn’t supply booze of course. I put a lot of waters and soda in the basement for them. Kids arrived with backpacks that I’m sure contained booze. Party ended at the time I requested. Nobody drove. Why did I allow this? I don’t know…why not I guess? Kids were seeking a house for a party and I said sure. It was going to happen somewhere and we have the space for it, and forgiving neighbors. [/quote]

I could have written this post. Same exact thing here. It’s not a regular thing but I’ll allow it on special occasions. Once maybe twice a year. It’s been fine and brought a lot of excitement to our house [/quote]

This is the genuine answer why people do it.  They don’t see a problem with it.[/quote]

Abstinence only parents won’t understand the parents who provide condoms, and don’t drink and party parents won’t understand the parents that want their kids to drink and party at a house rather than while hiding in shame.

Abstinence only parents have more grandchildren out of wedlock, but still judge the parents that provide condoms.[/quote]

NP - first of all, abstinence from sex is a terrible comparison to abstinence from booze.  Providing condoms hurts no one.  Supplying children with alcohol hurts those children.  There’s a lot of evidence showing the latter.

Second, parental attitudes towards drinking don’t have to be all or nothing.  It’s not supply your kids with booze vs. pretend they never drink.  FFS, tell your kids you expect them not to drink, but you’re aware that they might, and if they do, your safety is the most important thing.  Tell them you won’t punish them for calling you for a ride home when they get drunk.

Is the above a perfect approach?  No.  But it’s a lot better than handing over the alcohol or pretending alcohol doesn’t exist.[/quote]

This is how most people I know in real life approach the topic.  But there are a lot of people doing the I know there is booze in your backpack and I don’t care routine mentioned previously.  To me that lies somewhere on the all or nothing scale and I’m not comfortable with it.[/quote]

Well you're not going to get the whole world to choose your exact place in between all or nothing. Parent your own kid.[/quote]

Yes, that is what we are all doing and then the other adults in your community notice what you do and have thoughts about it.  Are people supposed to act happy that you provide an environment for 14 year olds to get drunk?  That's what this thread started with.  Freshman in high school.  Do it and deal with the judgment.[/quote]

Why assume what I do? What I see is the parents who do it don't care about the judgment. So if you're doing that, and they're doing that, then the circles should separate. Everyone should be ok.[/quote]

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