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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should acknowledge that when you avoid sharing your feelings, this is what you get: well-intended people making assumptions.

She IS well-intended, even though you experience it as a ghoulish attraction to your misfortune.

It's YOU who doesn't get that humans are on average much more social than you, and will therefore fill any void in communication with various interpretations of their own.

So it's a you problem.[/quote]

Op here, parts of what you state make a lot of sense and are accurate. I am a private person, and private people evoke curiosity.

The part you could have left out is about humans being social and the implication that those who aren't aren't human. Many of us are introverts who prefer working through our feelings alone and in private. Assuming there is something wrong with us is a YOU problem. Extroverts and their pushiness can be obnoxious, which is why introverts draw boundaries. If I say leave me alone, that includes writing messages in the sky. Don't.

Learn to respect boundaries, and if the person later accuses you of not caring, remind them that they asked you to respect boundaries. [/quote]

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