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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As you're seeing you can't really enforce your rules about her dating an older boy.  I also don't think this age difference as you've described is that big of a deal.

Focus on what you can control.  She can't be at his house or have him over or drive with him in his car.  Those are things you should be able to control.  Other than that, let it go and know that it will pass.[/quote]
I’m learning! Those are definitely the hard and fast rules. I don’t so much care if they meet up, but she needs to know it can’t lead anywhere today.

The age difference isn’t extreme, I admit that, but he’s a little more advanced and mature than she or her friends are. [b]This is her first “boyfriend” and I don’t want her getting hurt. [/b][/quote]

Did you not date at this age, OP? She's going to get hurt, whether now, at 17, at 21, or at 30. That you can't control, and trying to do so is going to drive you crazy.

I have two middle school daughters, so I get it, but your best bet is to acknowledge to yourself that you are fine with her hanging out with him at this public place, so why are you making a big deal out of it right now? If her friend is also there then she isn't lying.

I'm not an advocate of being your kids' "friend" instead of parent, but it sounds like your daughter is likely to lie to you down the road if you keep approaching things like this.[/quote]

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