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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is wild to me. We 100% had very open discussions with our kids about school choices and pros and cons. Part of growing up is hearing opinions that may be different than yours, processing the information, and then still making your own decision. [/quote]

"This is wild to me" - growing up is realizing people may do things differently than the way you do things.  [/quote]

No, the wild part is that people are afraid to share their opinion or talk to their kids openly. I can't say anything at all or voice my opinion for fear that my kid will resent me???[/quote]

You can share your "opinion" but you ultimately want the decision to be your kids.  When they have issues in college (all kids have some), you don't want them to blame you for "making them pick this school".  You want them to own the decision.  So your job (IMO) is to guide them thru the thought process to analyze the situation.  You can provide details and list why you consider pros/cons for each school and remind your kid what they want out of life (major, career goals, etc) but ultimately you want them to pick the school and whether they ED (since it means they have to attend if they get accepted and might not get to hear from other schools). Outside of money the choice is theirs.

So stating "I think you should ED to school X because of y, z, and N" is different than "here are the advantages of School X over School Y IMO, what do you think about that?" 
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