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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Ok, since the answers seem to mostly align, I will add a bit more color. My partner expects that our two under two will travel with her on every work trip because she will otherwise miss them, which means that I would likely have to accompany on most of those trips.

She has not had any work trips so far, but I have been trying to get ahead of the issue and manage expectations, as some might be forthcoming after the holidays. [b]In discussions right now, she is saying that we just have different preferences regarding the reasonableness of work travel with kids and there is no reason why my standard or preference should matter more than hers. No perspective is more valid than the other; they're just different.[/b]

Any suggestions on how to approach this? I have no problem at all watching the kids while she is away on work trips, but this solution does not seem to satisfy her so far.[/quote]

My relative does that. 2 under 3. Takes them and spouse on work trips. A chance to show the world to the spouse, who was not well travelled before marriage.  Is it worth it? Probably.  They also have pets that other relatives take care of.  A more opportune time won't come for them.  Also, they don't have to pay someone to look after the kids either. [/quote]

The bolded is ridiculous.  Of course there is a "reason" that your so-called "preference" matters more than hers on this issue: it is YOUR work, etc. that will need to be uprooted to make this work and it is YOU who will be doing like 95% of the childcare.  Your partner sounds ridiculous.  You get to the flat-out veto this.

[b]Are you a woman, OP?[/b][/quote]

No. I realize that I might not fully "get" all that she is feeling right now, but it still feels like a big ask so I'm trying to tread carefully.[/quote]

I think most of us responding are women and we agree that your wife is out of line with this request. [/quote]

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