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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it an option to work part-time? How stable is your spouse’s employment? When you say “downsize,” what do you mean exactly?[/quote]

I could try to find part-time work, and I'd be open to it after a breather. My current work is all consuming and would be impossible to do part time (work in tech).

My DH is a tenured professor at an R1 university. In theory this has always been very stable. My spouse is very active in his role and has a solid career. I don't have a crystal ball, but his work appears more stable than most, and he is not overly stressed by his job and wants to do it until 70+.

When I say downsize, I mean move back into a rental house that we used to live in. We can sell our current house and pay off the remaining mortgage on the rental house. We'd be completely debt free on top of having fully funded 529s. We have healthy retirement savings thanks to my job.

The rental house is a 4 bedroom 3 bedroom house in our exact same neighborhood. It has no backyard and no pool, which is a bummer, but it's a great house and would feel adequate for my family. Walking distance to a great playground, too, and a spit from school.

We'd be giving up entertaining often at home, but that's really the only big thing I can think of that we'd be giving up, and it's hardly a deal breaker if I can exchange it for more freedom and peace. [/quote]

I would really try to kick the tires on your assumption that your job must be all-consuming and cannot be done part-time. Is it just that *you* in your job cannot work in a manner that is not all-consuming? Are there really no other options or is it just that you can't imagine yourself doing them? I ask this not to criticize but to help. This used to be me. The options were there but I thought I couldn't bear to take the step down in job quality and prestige that I thought it would have involved. I now wish I'd considered them more seriously and gotten over myself. [/quote]

Thank you for this suggestion, it's really insightful.

One thing I am actually considering is downsizing to take some of the feeling of financial pressure off of me, and waiting to quit my job for a bit until the dust settles. Once I know that getting laid off or fired won't have us in the red every month, I might be able to even keep better boundaries with my current job as is. At this time, I am so scared and feel like I can't say no to anything. [/quote]

It would also let you have the flexibility to get laid off or quit a job you don't love, have a few months off, then find another one, especially if contract work is available in your particular line of work. Again, probably a drop in prestige for sure, but not a bad option that keeps you in the workforce but drops your stress level.[/quote]

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