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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish my BF were older.

I’m 39 with kids, he’s 30 no kids. He’s literally the perfect man and exactly what I have wanted my entire life. I’ve never met anybody like him.

But, I refuse to let him give up his life to be with me. I know he has ambitions that require him to move, and he wanted his own kids. He says he’s okay with giving that up but I won’t let him. Not at age 30. I know he would end up regretting it in 10 years.

So I keep pushing him to apply for jobs I know he wants that are out of state, knowing he’s going to end up moving away someday. Which sucks. I’ll miss him terribly. [/quote]

Tell me you’re a commitment commitmentphobe without telling me…[/quote]

I’m not a commitmentphobe, but I do think 30 is WAY too young to give up career and family aspirations for someone, especially someone who already has kids. 40, sure, you have enough lived experience to know what you’re getting into. But 30 is still so young and I don’t want him missing out on important aspects of life. [/quote]

You were likely around his age or younger when you decided to marry and have kids presumably you were old enough to make those choices about your life and so is he.

Bec5 if he's as young and incapable as you say you shouldn't be dating him.

But let's be real it's got nothing to do with you worrying hell miss out that's crap and you know it

You get off on banging a guy 10 years younger and telling people that it feeds your ego. You simply want to use him and pretend like you're so conflicted.[/quote]

If you reverse the genders and a 30 year old woman was considering giving up her career aspirations and having her own children for a 40 year old man with kids, everyone would tell her not to.

It’s actually a good practice in age gap relationships for the older partner to keep the younger partner’s best interest in mind, especially since they have more experience and more fully understand the consequences of these big decisions. [/quote]

I would not. A 30 year old woman is plenty old enough to decide what she wants.

And no in adult relationships you are considerate of each other you don't decide for the other what you think is best for them that is what a parent does for a child.
If you feel you need to parent your partner you shouldn't be with them.[/quote]

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