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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean "He gets overwhelmed with a list"?  A list of simple household chores is too much for him? Cleaning up the kitchen or vacuuming a few rooms is not difficult work. Has he always been this lazy?[/quote]

Leaving your spouse a list of work to do is always inappropriate. [/quote]

That’s the most asinine comment in this thread. My wife and I have always gravitated toward different tasks that we specialize in. I do all the home maintenance / renovation, automotive and yard / vegetable gardening work, vacuuming, and bathroom cleaning, among other things. She, on the other hand, doesn’t want me anywhere near the kitchen or panty. She’s a world class cook and doesn’t want me in her favorite home workspace any more than I’d want her rummaging through my carefully organized tool chests in the garage.

During furloughs throughout the years, I loved the fact that she left me lists that were aligned with her own “to do” list, so I could take some burden off her shoulders if I had any free time — and the stuff would be the most urgent to get done.

That way I could get up early and plan out my day. E.g., I could drop the kids’ stack of due library books off at the local branch, or get some particular ingredients she needed at Wegmans, on the way back from whatever errands I was running.

What kind of married couple would NOT want to align their priorities and tasks like that?

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A couple that actually respects each other? My wife is not my employee. I don't get to direct what she does during the day. If she'd like to go to the store to get something we need, she can. There cannot be a list of obligations in a fair relationship, because neither party has that authority over the other. [/quote]

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