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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM and my husband makes about 300K. What would I be looking at for child support (sine the calculators don't go that high) and would you recommend finding a job before divorcing or waiti g until after it is final?

Thanks[/quote]

Support issues are very fact specific, often based on the age of the children and the length of the marriage.. I think women usually come out ahead if they secure themselves financially with a job / benefits, but you should consult with an attorney to find out how the law applies to your situation.[/quote]

Kids are 5 and 2. Marriage is 8 years long. I've also heard that it can make sense to try to stay married for 10 years. Apparently if you've been married 10 years you can collect your spouses SS in the event of his death. Is this true?[/quote]

Yes, after 10 years you get Social Security based on your husband's earnings.  [/quote]

SAHM here, I left STBX at the 8 1/2 mark. In MD there's a one year waiting period to file for divorce if you don't file on, say, an adultery ground. STBX makes just around $260k. After fifteen months I finally got court ordered temporary child support of $5k for three kids. STBXH did everything he could to delay the hearing and was successful at pushing it back for a long time. Before the hearing he only paid $3k in total support and left me to pay all of my own bills (car note, credit cards, etc.). In hindsight, I would've made sure I had zero debts in my name before leaving, except maybe a car note. In the end it will work out because the judge basically told him he would be paying alimony, too. I still don't have a job and plan to go back to school.

Never expect your DH to do the right thing for the kids once you leave. I could have never imagined who my H would become after we separated. You also need to have a plan for health insurance following the divorce. He could be ordered to pay the premium on a policy for you, but you really never know how the cards will fall.

You can receive SS based on your H's earnings after ten years of marriage, but it's my understanding that you can only collect after age 65 (or upon his death?) if you have not remarried. [/quote]

Thank you that was a super helpful real world scenario. One more question. Did you leave the house when you left? I could not afford our home on my own and the few times I have mentioned separating he tells me that I would have to go. I'm not going to leave w/o the kids, but does it put me at a disadvantage in some way?

I hope you are doing well I. Your new life.[/quote]

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