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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a more relevant metric than your age is the age of your kids. I think that's a bigger driver in determining friendships. I am mid-40s with elementary school aged kids. The majority of my friends in my daily life are about 5-10 years younger than me (parents of kids friends) or 10 years older (friends who never had kids). I also approach it like dating if I think I might like someone I will give my number/ask for theirs then start randomly sharing silly things. I also probably throw out 5-6 invitations to do things for every 1 invite that gets a yes (and half the time that gets rescheduled). I really try to pick on vibes of whether the person is not interested in friendship/not a good match or if they are genuinely busy and if the latter I keep asking. I just happen to be more organized and driven and people really appreciate it and I've helped some groups of friends gel this way. But it is work!!![/quote]

Agree here...we moved during the pandemic so it was tough finding new friends. I'm in my 50s with tween-aged kids and have made friends in the neighborhood through just seeing the same moms at the elementary school bus stop and at the pool club. Most of the other moms are 10-15 yrs younger than me but it doesn't seem to matter. Having kids in the same age ranges makes it easier. I also do some volunteering (environmental/outdoor/gardening projects) and that group tends to be my age or older. I do a mix of just showing up for a lot of volunteer opportunities and putting out invitations myself. I'm a lot less self conscious about whether every invitation leads to something actually happening or not and agree for a lot of people, they're just relieved someone else is the organizer. I'm kind of an extroverted introvert...most of my friends are on the introvert side and I get us all out of the house![/quote]

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