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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an electrical engineer. Yes, I can be quite difficult because I don't see things the way most people do. Like most engineers I have met, I like a good argument. I will even take an opposing view just to have a better discussion of any potential issues. DW really hates that since I should "always be supportive," but I want to understand things not react. As for art, I admire the effort and skill, I just don't understand the motivation. I will say that civil engineering work can be elegant, but is often pedestrian due to budget limitations. I feel sorry for the guy that is forced to build an ugly bridge that will be around for 50 years.[/quote]
I'm a Civil (turned app developer) married to a CPA and you're right on many of these. I often play Devil's Advocate and both DH and youngest DC hates it. I also struggle with 'art' for art's sake. I do enjoy taking someone else's idea and, well, engineering the hell out of it so [i]they[/i] look brilliant. :) [and, yeah, an ugly structure stinks  :(  . BTDT but $ rules]

[quote=Anonymous]OP here. So helpful to read everyone's experiences and so much of it tracks with his personality. (I fully acknowledge we are dealing in generalizations and there is always variability).

So far, he has been kind, considerate, thoughtful, quietly sentimental all of which are new and I love. It's the rigidity I was a little concerned about-- [b]stickler for time, not the most flexible in changing plans[/b]. I'm just not good at the latter- timeliness- so I've been making a big effort, but for how long? That's why I was curious how others had reconciled these differences (whether related to being an engineer or not).

Also, I'm really familiar with rigidity due to ASD and this doesn't feel like that at all, trying to understand that a little better. [/quote]
Those can also be manifested in military or LEOs: 'Early is on-time. On-time is late. Late is unacceptable.'  It's been a huge challenge in our ~30 year relationship. DH cares so little about time, he completely missed a good friend's wedding because he said, "(In Jersey) they never start on time and take over an hour." Not Southern Baptists!

But seriously, OP, if the guy is treating you right -- leaving for an event a few minutes earlier than [i]you[/i] think is necessary or being able to pivot when they can't -- is worth it.[/quote]

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