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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From a practical standpoint, if she lives in the UK, how often do you think it is even possible that she will be taking care of your kids.

I wouldn't add anything in for those rare occasions. [/quote]

+1  I wouldn't get into a tit for tat about mother in laws when yours is on another continent and his is likely to be living in the same house as the child soon.  Concentrate on keeping things amicable so that it will naturally make more sense in his mind to call you when he's called out of town, before booking a plane ticket.
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I’m OP and you have it mixed up. STBexMIL lives permanently in the Uk. DH would fly her the 6 hours or whatever whenever he had a work trip so she could babysit. And then fly her back to the UK. She is the primary caregiver for another grandchild there.

My mom is local. She does not live with us, and probably won’t for 3-4 years. I don’t anticipate her providing childcare ever but am concerned about my child being a teen one day and wanting to stay home alone and not being able to if she does move in with us.[/quote]

You concerns are NOT valid. I'm from Europe, and I lived in the UK. Even in first class and private chauffeur, with jet lag and everything, this is not happening for babysitting. You need to pack, get to the bloody airport early, go through the hassle of security, not sleep on the flight, arrive at the airport, get driven to the house, be exhausted and out of whack... Maybe she'll try it once and that's it. If your MIL has access to a private jet and doesn't need to go through the usual terminal and security lines like the plebes, OK, maaaybe. Just maaaybe. It would still be a stretch.

Your mother might never move in with you - I highly recommend against it, OP - so this is moot for the current agreement.

You and your husband are LOONY to think like this. Just agree to the custody plan and expect that when he decides to travel, he will call you.
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