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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not have children and attempt to socialize with my sister who has an almost 2 year old. I love my niece, she is precocious and adorable but I also miss socializing with my sister.

Since she gave birth to my niece it’s been really difficult to get her attention or meaningfully engage with her about any subject other than by niece!

She’ll invite me over to hang out, but will spend the entire time talking to and playing with my niece and following her around. Which I understand she must as that’s how toddlers are, but I’m not able to have any conversation with her at all except make comments about my niece! I’ll just sit there or follow my niece and sister around while she talks and engages with the little girl. I feel invisible!

After my niece goes to bed she will understandably be excited and go quiet and scroll her phone.

I miss my sister! And I miss having a relationship with her. [/quote]

This is all normal stuff - on both sides.  Normal for your sister to be deep into the motherhood phase of her life, especially with a 2 year old.  That is really an intense phase.  As an introvert, I found having a toddler really mentally and emotionally exhausting, so that on off times, I just wanted to go quiet and veg and have peace and not talk to anyone else.

Also normal for you as the sister to miss the old sister and the bond you used to share.  For me, I didn't feel like I felt like myself until both of our kids were older than 7. And now that they're older than 10, I even feel more like myself.

I think if you want to stay bonded through these years, you have to make an effort to bond with your niece. They are a package deal now.

It's understandably hard to comprehend how it feels to have a human being completely reliant on you for their existence and well-being.  It's a lot, especially the first go-around. [/quote]

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