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[quote=Anonymous]I believe the last conviction for adultery (a class 4 misdemeanor in Virginia) was more than 20 years ago. Even then it was considered rare and shocking. (See https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/local/2003/12/01/va-adultery-case-roils-divorce-industry/84ff5ce8-f69b-410e-9a2f-d1bae148993a/)

Any VA lawyer telling a separated client who is dating that he/she is in danger of criminal prosecution is seriously misleading that client. If your lawyer says that you could be prosecuted for adultery in VA, find a new lawyer.

Separated spouses sexual behavior has *might* impact custody of minors in a contested divorce, if the judge believes one party's behavior is so bad that it is harmful to the children, but this is also rare.

When there are no minor children, adultery has no effect on financial outcomes except in those rare cases in which both the adultery and "dissipation of assets" can be proved. Those are those situations in which the adulterous party spent marital resources to further the adultery or enrich the person they're sleeping with. But as noted, this is not about the adulterous partner buying dinner for the person they're sleeping with, or even paying for an occasional vacation or something. This in situations where the adulterous party has frittered away some really substantial portion of the marital assets on this. And the legal expenses involved in proving this rarely make the effort worthwhile.

There are all kinds of excellent reasons to set firm boundaries with soon to be exes, and all kinds of good reasons for divorcing spouses to go slow when it comes to getting seriously involved with others. But no one should be terrified that dating someone else after separating will cause legal problems.

And people should maybe try being a tad less judgmental, too. None of us know the details here. Show some empathy.[/quote]

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