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[quote=Anonymous]"And although this is DCUM, some of you must live in beknighted states in which "adultery" includes relationships after a separation and has negative legal consequences during a divorce. Thankfully, that is not the case in DC, VA or MD."

OMG! You are so misinformed. You absolutely need to speak with an attorney ASAP so that you stop harming your legal position, if you live in VA. VA doesn't recognize separation. You're either married or you're not. (I dated someone who was in the process of finishing his divorce in VA after many years of living separately from his ex and we consulted with his attorney about minimizing any harm that our relationship could cause to his case.) In VA, you are 100% still married, and as such, sleeping with someone who is not your spouse is going to be used against you in the divorce. To sleep with him inside your "marital home" is just gasoline on the fire. Expect to pay even more alimony than you are already on the hook for if you keep this up. You're also being a real jerk by pretending that you might reunite after the 6 months when all of your actions said otherwise. Your kids and mutual friends will see this and think worse of you because of it.

"In Virginia, even post-separation relationships can be considered adultery. Most courts will not impose criminal penalties and many judges will not award a divorce based on adultery, but it’s important to know that it may be an issue in your case. For that reason, most divorce attorneys will recommend using discretion in pursuing new relationships." https://www.melonelawpc.com/blog/im-separated-and-dating-will-this-hurt-my-case/

"Many states legally recognize separation. In such states, a marriage remains intact during separation, but the spouses live separate lives. Virginia is one of a handful of states that don’t recognize legal separation.

This means that couples in Virginia can only be married or divorced. Even if spouses choose to separate and one moves out of the shared family home, they’re legally still married in the eyes of the law until divorce proceedings are complete."
 
"Virginia recognizes both no-fault and at-fault divorce. When a married couple mutually decides to end the marriage, they typically opt for a no-fault divorce. However, dating while still married can end up giving your spouse grounds to file for an at-fault divorce."

"In Virginia, an at-fault divorce can impact how assets are divided and the amount of alimony one spouse is ordered to pay the other. Dating can lead you to lose out on alimony you would have been awarded or can leave you paying a higher amount than you would have paid if you’d waited to date until the marriage was over. " https://www.achowdhurylaw.com/blog/yes-you-can-date-while-separated-in-virginia-but-heres-the-catch/

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