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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I don't know what to think about the hygiene stuff.  It is partly a sensory thing - her hating the feeling of brushing her hair, her teeth, and having wet hair, and partly she hates stopping what she is doing to do something totally mundane and boring, and partly that she doesn't see the point of brushing hair.  She does brush her teeth and shower regularly even though she may complain incessantly about it or procrastinate.

As for the slowness with homework - that's been harder to figure out.  When it comes to math, it's the rote work of following the same steps.  Nothing is ever automatic for her, she overthinks it, then gets lost, and then overcomplicates it, and then sometimes just gets stuck on really simple stuff.  When it comes to writing, it's total writer's block and procrastination.  When it comes to any project, it's a combination of procrastination, lack of commitment to a specific direction, and then lack of planning, and then always attempting to overdeliver - as in spending 20 hours on a project where the expectation was to spend just 5 hours on it. She studies and tests really well, but often needs extra time for tests.  When I sit next to her, and keep her on track, she can work faster.  But the distractions come frequently, and I need to redirect her a lot.  She gets distracted by a bug, by a pile of crumbs, by a piece of paper.  As I describe it, this all sounds more like adhd.

Generally though, a lot of it is her perfectionism.  She refuses to settle for a 95, she feels like she absolutely must get the 100.  She has low confidence and self esteem, and thinks her classmates are all smarter than her, because things seem to come more easily for them.

As for the social stuff - a lot of it is that she is naturally an extreme introvert and does not feel the need to socialize, and finds socializing draining.  But it's also like she doesn't know how to do the things that most people for take for granted.  Like how to enter/join a conversation, carry on a conversation, how to make small talk, how to make plans with friends, how to respond to a myriad of things that people might say in a conversation. I'm sure a lot of this is due to lack of interest, practice, and exposure due to her avoidance of social situations. She has a small group of friends, but she makes minimal effort to spend time with them and I feel like they are growing apart and she has no interest in making new ones. [/quote]

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