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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you want your ILs to give you money.[/quote]

We don't think they owe us anything. But we could really use help and yes, we need financial help. They know we are struggling and nothing.[/quote]

Ok, I was sympathetic before but you are literally saying you don’t want their money but you want their money in the same sentence.

Also, a lot of older people, especially from that part of the world and with the type of tough love/perfectionist personality you describe will not think about helping or even understand hints but might help if you asked point blank. I don’t mean say “it’s tough now” but literally say “Ivan and Natasha, we need $X for such and such, can you lend it to us for a year” (or whatever.)

But also, I understand that it’s tough to go back to work with kids or to move elsewhere because the schools here are good but unfortunately you are in a situation where there is no optimal outcome. I second the PPs who say to move - places other than here have therapy treatments and school programs. Also, to be blunt, it’s nice to have that - familiar and helpful location/being able to stay home - but if the choice comes between that and being homeless, it’s clear what it should be. Even if your in-laws helped out, they’d be within their rights to ask for how long and demand some sort of plan of action that can have a good probability of success because they can’t support or assist you forever.
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